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How to tackle porn addiction

Is your use of porn damaging your relationships?

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We recently sat down with Nicholas Rose and Justin Duwe — both of whom are counsellors that specialise in working with gay men and gay couples – to talk about porn, and whether porn can be damaging to relationships or family life.

Is porn harmful?

“When I’m working with gay couples, use of porn is something that is often raised…” confirmed Rose.

“There has been a lot of research about pornography…” added Duwe. “What we know is that both men and women find it sexually stimulating to watch porn — men watch more porn than women, and a lot of men watch porn when masturbating simply because it is sexually stimulating.”

“Whether porn use is healthy or harmful can only be decided once you understand the impact that it has on your experience of sex and life in general…” cautioned Rose. “An example of a harmful impact is that it could lead to you developing unrealistic expectations about sex.”

“Another example of how it could be harmful…” continued Duwe, agreeing, “…is where your use of porn begins to change the way that you enjoy sex — some gay men I work with watch porn while edging, or delaying their orgasm for long periods of time. This can be enjoyable for obvious reasons, but this isn’t something that you can generally replicate when you’re having sex with another person”.

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If you are having issues with porn, what can you do about it?

“The first thing to do is identify the specific area of concern and then look for factual information — people are often surprised at just how much information is available on sexual concerns…” said Rose.

“Sex is meant to be enjoyable and fun…” added Duwe. “People need to feel comfortable experiencing their sex lives and speaking about their fantasies. Watching porn can help with this process but there are often many complex issues why someone is reluctant to talk about sex — generally the issues of shame and guilt come into play”.

Key points

If you think that a pornography addiction could be damaging your relationships, find someone that you can talk to about it. Once you can start to articulate how you use porn, why you use porn, and why porn is starting to cause you  problems, then you begin to develop strategies to manage that and focus on strengthening the relationships in your life.

 

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